Resilience: “The capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.”

One of the greatest lessons I have learned from my photography business is one I was not anticipating to learn when I first ventured to be a photographer almost 7 years ago  : Resilience.

For those of you who don’t know, I went through a bit of a health crisis last year. In a 7 month period, I had a battery of several medical tests, 6 CT scans, surgery to remove an organ, a biopsy and 7 deaths among family, friends and colleagues. The crap definitely hit the fan all at once and it left me staggering under the weight of it all happening at once.

But it was in that moment that I asked myself if I was going to throw in the towel and give up or if I was going to get back up again and keep going.

That’s where resilience came in and became a close friend.

It’s easy to say I’m thankful for life when all is going well.

It’s easy for me to follow my dreams with gusto when it’s smooth sailing.

But what about when the waters are rough?

What about when everything doesn’t play out the way I’m expecting it to?

Do I give up or give it more?

I’ve said a certain quote for a long time because I really believe in it:

“The crap of today is the fertilizer of tomorrow’s dreams.”

Resilience is a by-product of believing that things will get better and that belief propels you forward to keep trying. It’s letting life take it’s punches, but not allowing it to take you down for a full TKO.

When life gets tough, will you give up or will you give it more effort to keep pushing through and keep going and growing?

Because my surgery happened during my busiest time of the photography year, I was not able to photograph for awhile, which was super hard for me because photography and being a photographer is a part of my DNA–it’s almost like life for my soul the way that oxygen is for the lungs.

I learned that a part of being resilient is being flexible. So, I took on a part time temp accounting job to help me through the time that I couldn’t photograph. I was tempted to believe that my business would fall apart while I was recovering and that that was the end. But while I was lying in bed, I allowed my heart to dream and plan. I prayed so hard during that time and asked God to give me a fresh vision for the business He had given me and He did.

The circumstances were discouraging, but resilience keeps you moving forward. In faith, it believes for the best and that things will get better. Some of my favorite sojourners of resilience that I listened to on Youtube for days (because they helped to keep me encouraged) were (and are) Nick Vujicic, Earl Nightingale and others who have been through difficult trials, but overcame them. Dancers with only one leg. A singer badly burned but not letting her outward appearance diminish her vocal talent. A surfer with only one arm because a shark bit off her other.

I learned that resilience is not about circumstance, but about attitude. 

It’s a conscious effort to make the best of hard situations and grow from them.

I can see crap or I can see fertilizer.

It’s made from the same stuff, but used differently, depending on how I decide to use it.

It appears that I made it through that very difficult time and while I don’t know what the future holds, I am grateful, not so much for the trials themselves, but what I learned from them and how I can now use those things to encourage others in their own trials.

If you’re facing something very hard and feeling alone and asking where God is in all of this, know that this is only a season and that, even though these trials seem unending and extremely difficult, you will come through the other side stronger. By having a positive attitude, the fortitude to keep going and a determination to make something good from these difficult circumstances, you will be even more ready to be strong in this life and you’ll have a greater impact and influence on others.

The crap of today is the fertilizer for tomorrow’s dreams.

Make something beautiful from the not so beautiful.

Don’t give up. Give it more.


Photographers, Stop Selling Yourselves Short

I write this post with passion in my heart, because I see so many photographers looking to determine their value based on what someone says or doesn’t say about them. The problem with this way of thinking, is that their value level is always going to rise and fall, depending on what the person they are inquiring thinks about his or her business.

Consider this: We all shop at different stores and why?

We all value different things.

We may be a spender or a saver.

The amount of our paycheck may influence us and what we purchase or don’t purchase.

If we are saving for something we would like to purchase, we may or may not pass on something that someone is trying to sell us.

Where do you shop at? Think of all the department stores available to you when you need to purchase an item. There’s a variety of stores available to you. How do you decide where to shop at?

Sears / JCPenney / Macy’s / Dillard’s / SAKS 5th Avenue / Nordstrom

What about retail stores?

Walmart / Ross / Marshall’s / Target / Kmart / Kohl’s

The truth is, we all shop at different places, depending on our personal values and oftentimes, our current financial status.

Different people shop at different stores and what might be okay for one person to purchase at is not okay for the next.

The price-conscious consumer, for example, may balk at the idea of shopping at a fine department store, no matter how much he or she makes because for him or her, the value is in the actual process of saving money instead of spending  it (i.e. transferring that value to an item that can be used or enjoyed).

On the other hand, if a consumer finds value in purchasing (in the transferring of value from money itself into the object or service), then he or she is more apt to shop at any store and not limit his or herself to what they have earned/not earned.

If there is a limit with the amount of paycheck that he or she earns, but the desire for that transfer of value (to purchase) is there, then he or she will see it as a temporary financial setback instead of a permanent roadblock. He or she will often save up money in order to make that purchase,  because the desire to have the object or service is greater than the limitation itself.

So, what is a photographer to do?

How does one set a value on their own work?

Rather than pricing their work at what others are charging or in what he or she feels is the right amount, emotion should be placed to the side for some time and cold, hard numbers should be crunched and evaluated.

What are things to consider when putting together numbers?

(This list includes suggestions but is by no means exhaustive)


  • Cost of goods being given to a client
  • Shipping from the lab to photographer
  • Shipping from the photographer to the client
  • Gas and wear and tear to and from a photo session
  • Packaging (labels, boxes, ribbon, bubble wrap or crunchy filler, tape, etc.)
  • Stationary (thank you card, letters, stamps)


  • Initial contact on phone or via the internet
  • Pre-consultation
  • Driving to/from the photography location
  • Photographing clients
  • Uploading images
  • Culling through images
  • Editing images
  • Exporting images
  • Uploading images to client gallery or for in person sales presentation
  • Slideshow creation
  • Online/Over The Phone/In Person Sales presentation
  • Uploading images to lab
  • Ordering images from lab
  • Packaging products
  • Hand delivering items or shipping to client
  • Writing a thank you card


(Things You May Need to Pull From What You Earn)

  • Food
  • Clothing
  • Rent or Mortgage
  • Health insurance
  • Car insurance
  • Business insurance
  • Business licensing
  • Equipment maintenance
  • Taxes (business and personal)
  • Retirement
  • Childcare
  • Debt you need to pay off
  • Phone
  • Gas
  • Toiletries
  • Education
  • Studio rent and costs (if you own one)
  • Props
  • Computer maintenance
  • Hard drives and backups
  • Internet
  • Printer Ink
  • Marketing Fees

Are you realizing that you need to be making quite a bit more in order to become a sustainable business? Are you charging $150 a session, $300 a session, $500 a session and thinking that’s fair to charge?

When you really look at all that you need to pay from what you make, you realize that those amounts are not sustainable as a business or as a lifestyle. The money you earn will go out of your pocket so quickly to pay for things, it won’t even seem as though you had hold of it.

You will be living paycheck to paycheck and not only is that not fair to you as a business owner, it’s not fair to your talent or to your life.

You deserve to charge what you need to earn in order to live sustainably as a person and as a business. If you feel you cannot charge at least this amount, then you must consider why you are in business in the first place and, if you cannot sustain yourself for 1 year, then where will you find yourself at in 5 years?

In all honesty, if a business cannot charge what is necessary to stay afloat, then it will eventually sink.

You may feel guilty at the thought of charging your clients more until you look at the data itself. Your clients deserve a fair price, yes. But don’t you deserve to charge a price that’s fair to you and your life as well?

If you find that clients are resisting, then instead of selling yourself short, you will need to find a new demographic that can pay you what you need in order to survive and thrive.

With photography, you need to set your level of where you need to be at and then find the people who will join you where you are at, instead of setting your level to where each person is at and saying that that is your level…because that level will always be illusive and always be changing with each person you meet.

Be fair to your clients while seeking out the clients that will be fair in return to you as well.

Validation — The Creative’s Struggle


Why do many creatives look to others for their validation? It’s not uncommon to hear photographers asking for validation from their fellow photographers, family, friends, sometimes even clients, to ask for their litmus line opinion of whether their work is satisfactory or not.

If the response is positive, elation builds and he/she feels like conquering the world.

If it is negative, discouragement settles in and the thought of never pursuing photography again becomes very tempting.

I know from personal experience, because for a long time, I didn’t want to pursue photography. I reasoned, “What if I am like one of those wannabe contestants on American Idol who only believe that they can sing well, but are truly horrible?”

I found myself constantly asking for validation from everyone I came in contact with. If someone complimented my work, I would say, “Really? Are you sure?” When I first started, I wasn’t secure in myself and I desperately longed to believe that I could be good enough–that I was good enough, but my insecurities prevented me from having such an unshakable, placid confidence.

With photography and any art form, there is always room for growth! 

When I first started my pursuit of photography, I had a lot to learn…A LOT. I hadn’t had formal schooling (unless you count the 3 college classes I took–one of which I failed….funny, because the teacher who failed me is now a fan of my work!), was just entering into this new craft and really didn’t have any idea what I was doing technically.

I felt so uncomfortable with not having any practice or knowledge base and resolved that I either needed to quit photography (because, I surmised, I wasn’t up to par with other photographers) or I had to do something opposite in it’s place.

I chose the latter.

I gave myself grace for the journey.

I thought about how unstable a baby looks when learning to walk for the first time. She pulls her Pamper-clad bottom off the floor and takes a few shaky steps forward before falling back down again.

Yet a baby doesn’t give up. She gets up and keeps going.

I decided that I needed to keep going too, even though I felt very inferior to the skill levels others were at as photographers.

I stopped looking at how other people were doing and started competing against myself. After each photo session I would ask,”Is this the best that I could have done?” If it wasn’t, I tried to dissect what I was doing wrong so I could correct it for next time. If I did do my best, I celebrated and tried to use those techniques in my next session.

I learned that there are always going to be people who are not as skilled as I am and likewise, there are always those that are way more skilled than I am.

Yet, my validation–your validation–doesn’t materialize or disappear when you measure yourself against where others are at in their journies. It comes when you measure yourself against yourself and where you are in your journey.

Instead of asking if you are “good enough” when compared with others, why not ask if you are doing “your best” when it comes to yourself? That is the real test.

The becoming a business and becoming a professional will attract itself to you as you grow and it will take flight on its own.

You won’t have to make it happen. It just will.

Rather than focusing on the outcome and constantly wondering if you are “there” yet, focus on becoming the best that you can be so that it will be attracted to you and it will eventually come.

It will be a by-product rather than the means to an end.

Give yourself time to transform from point A to point B, point C, etc….if you stick with it long enough, you’ll find yourself on point Z like you see other photographers you admire. You’ll no longer look for validation from exterior sources because the validation will come from within.

Give yourself grace for the journey.

Here’s a peek at when I first picked up a digital camera in 2003 and now in 2015. It’s quite a difference because I learned a lot in the process and grew. If I had rated myself against other photographers back when I started, I would have been discouraged and given up because I still had so very much to learn.

Give yourself grace for the journey and push yourself to grow.

“Keep dreaming, keep learning keep growing….and one day you’ll find yourself living your dream.” –Beba

before and after photo